Hard question to answer Joe, as everyone's hands are different in size.Brownie....
If you just had two categories:
Women and Men
What pistols do you think are the three that feel best using your method? Three for women, three for men.
Some like a thin grip, like my shield, but others want something more hand filling like a Ruger Security 9 [ two small concealable semi's.
The K frame S+W would be at the top of the list because one can get target grips [ hand filling for big hands ], combat grips [ for smaller hands ] Hogue or other rubber type grips which cover both categories and reduce felt recoil. It will take light 38's for plinking, heavy 38+P's for serious business or 357 in 125's or 158 grains.
I'm not sure I can really answer the question you posed, there's really no rhyme nor reason why someone chooses one over another. Some discuss "it's too heavy", others discuss "it's too light".