my family went through my mother's house like a pack of ravenous animals when she passed...i had to call a nephew on his way out of town and tell him to turn around and bring back something my brother told him he could take as it was promised to my 4 year old daughter and it disappeared immediately...i wanted to burn the house down to keep them away...interesting what happens to people when someone passes...when my father passed ten years earlier one of my brothers who had no interest in guns grabbed dads, knowing i was the one who shot with him...then sold them off...i told him i wanted a particular handgun and he went to the friend he practically gave it to tryingt o buy it back...only to find out the friend had already flipped it...nothing but disappointment...i was fortunate that my mother had set aside a navy ring of my fathers for me...it was something i fell in love with as a tike and she never forgot it...My immediate family was never a problem. I learned generosity from my dad’s example and had a problem learning mom’s frugality and conservatism that kept food on the table. I will unhesitatingly spend my last dime as quickly as I spent my first.
My mother’s side was a bunch of Yankees. Grandma lived with us for years for free. Grandma used to have a little red rubber change purse that you kind of pinched and it opened up. When she died, the Yankees showed up and went through her room. They were like a horde of locusts and I noticed they took all the quarters dimes and nickels out of her a little change purse. I know exactly what you’re talking about. You never really know anybody till you split an inheritance with them.
Did you run it by local atty to make sure it complies with your state’s requirements? Sometimes it’s tricky.I set up my estate planning as follows
1. What's in the documents as to who gets what
a. house, bikes, cars
b. the roth ira
c firearms; ammo, miscellaneous sundries
Each gets a % of the above, and the document affords the following warning to all of them. Contest the document as to who gets what, you automatically get zip, and the others split that share equally. If any of them take MY wishes to court to contest it, the judge sees the following in the document/s.
This avoids probate and court fees